The most effective state of mind for growth

Our intense desire to know is human nature and an inborn impulse that Melanie Klein (1928/1975) called the epistemophilic instinct. Without this appetite to know more (and more!) there wouldn’t be much to inspire evolution. Psychologically speaking, the development and maintenance of the mind depends upon cultivating a Curious State of Being. Curiosity is essential for development, discovery and creativity and involves being emotionally interested in oneself, as well as in relationships with others. When curiosity is lost or closed off, negative emotional states like depression and problematic anxiety can arise. It’s important to remember that curiosity is about genuine enquiry, openness and inquisitiveness without a certain outcome. If curiosity becomes intrusiveness or an insistence on certainty and on possession it can lead to frustration. A Curious State of Being can be enhanced through meaningful connection with others. If you have ever been curious about why psychologists ask so many questions… or wonder about the deeper meaning of experiences… or are just so intent on thinking with you about you… one reason is that developing a curious state of mind helps you to grow and creates possibilities for change through transformative conversation.

“Human curiosity, the urge to know, is a powerful force and is perhaps the best secret weapon of all in the struggle to unravel the workings of the natural world.” - Aaron Klug

July 2023